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Book Referrals

I have read most of the below books. While I don't necessarily agree with everything in all of them, I consider them to have a lot of good information.

Occasionally some have a spiritual bent; if that fits for you, fine, and if not hopefully you can leave that part aside and take what is helpful to you.

Books with * mean that I've read them, and can tell you more about the book if you have questions.
Books with ** mean that I read them and found them to be exceptional.
Books that aren't starred are either recommended by a person or an organization that I greatly respect.

Book Referrals by Sonoma Therapist Diane DuBois

  Click any section below to see book listing (click to close).

Abuse / Sexual Abuse

Battered Woman....Lenore Walker
Beginning to Heal: A First Book for Men and Women who were Sexually Abused as Children....Ellen Base & Laura Davis
Betrayal of Innocence....Susan Forward & Craig Buck
**Conspiracy of Silence.....Sandra Butler
Divorce Poison: Protecting the Parent-Child Bond from a Vindictive Ex....Richard Warshak
Father-Daughter Incest....Judith Lewis Herman
**For Your Own Good (Hidden Cruelty in Child Rearing and the Roots of Violence).....Alice Miller
Healing Sibling Sexual Trauma- A Very Personal Story....Hannah Cartwright
**House Rules: A Memoir....Rachel Sontag
How Long Does It Hurt?....Cynthia L. Mather and Kristina E. Debye
*I Never Told Anyone.....Ellen Bass
**If I Should Die Before I Wake....Michelle Morris
*Kiss Daddy Goodnight....Louis Armstrong
Legacy of the Heart: The Spiritual Advantages of a Painful Childhood....Wayne Muller
Not to People Like Us: Hidden Abuse in Upscale Marriages....Susan Weitzman
Sexually Victimized Children....David Finkelhor
Stop the Merry-Go-Round: Stories of Women Who Broke the Cycle of Abusive Relationships....Milton Trachtenburg
Strong at the Broken Places: Overcoming the Trauma of Childhood Abuse....Linda Sanford
**The Courage to Heal....Ellen Bass & Laura Davis
The Emotionally Abusive Relationship: How to Stop Being Abused and How to Stop Abusing; The Jekyll and Hyde Syndrome....Berverly Engel
The Verbally Abusive Man, Can He Change?: A Woman's Guide to Deciding Whether to Stay or Go....Patricia Evans
**The Verbally Abusive Relationship....Patricia Evans
**Thou Shalt Not Be Aware-Society's Betrayal of the Child....Alice Miller
**When Bad Things Happen to Good People....Rabbi Harold Kuschner
When Dad Hurts Mom: Helping Your Children Heal the Wounds of Witnessing Abuse....Lundy Bancroft
Why Does He Do That? Inside the Minds of Angry and Controlling Men....Lundy Bancroft

Addiction / Recovery

A Teenage Guide to Living With an Alcoholic Parent....Lynn Hornik-Beer
**Adult Children of Alcoholics....Janet Woititz
Another Chance: Hope and Health for the Alcoholic Family....Sharon Wegscheider
**Beautiful Boy: A Father's Journey Throught his Son's Addiction....David Sheff
*Children of Alcoholics....Judith Seixas & Geraldine Youcha
Consuming Passions: Help for Compulsive Shoppers....Ellen Mohr Catalano & Nina Sonenberg
Hope for Children of Alcoholics....Alaten
If Your Parent Drinks Too Much....Tom Klaus
**It Will Never Happen to Me....Claudia Black
**Lit....Mary Karr (A memoir)
Living With a Parent Who Drinks Too Much....Judith Seixas
My Dad Loves Me, My Dad Has a Disease....Claudia Black
The Alcoholic Family....Peter Steinglass
**The Tender Bar: A Memoir....J.R. Moehringer 
Virtual Addiction: Help for Netheads, Cyberfreaks, and Those Who Love Them.....David Greenfield


**10,000 Sorrows....Elizabeth Kim (A memoir)
Family Bonds....Elizabeth Bartholet
Nobody's Children....Elizabeth Bartholet
**Stories of Adoption....Eric Blau
**Touched by Adoption....Nancy A. Robinson
**Twenty Things Adopted Kids Wished Their Adoptive Parents Knew....Sherrie Eldridge

A Child's Journey Through Placement....Vera Fahlberg
Adopt International: Everything You Need To Know To Adopt A Child From Abroad....Robin Sweet & Patty Bryan
Adopting After Infertility: The Decision, The Commitment, The Experience....Patricia Irwin Johnson
**Adopting: The Tapestry Guide....Laurie Wallmark
**Adoption Triangle....Arthur Soresky, Annette Baran & Reuben Pannor
Are Those Kids Yours? American Families with Children Adopted From Other Countries....Cheri Register
Children of Open Adoption....Kathleen Silber & Patricia Martinez Dorner
Dear Birthmother: Thank You For Our Baby....Kathleen Silber & Patricia Speedlin
Helping Children Cope With Separation and Loss....Claudia Jewett-Jarratt
Raising Adopted Children....Lois Melina
**Real Parents, Real Children: Parenting the Adopted Child....Holly Van Guilden & Lisa Bartels-Rabb
The Spirit of Open Adoption....James Gritter
Toddler Adoption: The Weavers Craft....Mary Hopkins Best

Adoption is for Always....Linda Girard
**A Mother For Choco....Keiko Kaska
And Tango Makes Three....Perter Parnell & Justin Richardson
Forever Fingerprints: An Amazing Discovery for Adopted Children....Sherrie Eldridge
Happy Adoption Day!....John McCutcheon
**Horace....Holly Keller
Mommy, Did I Grow in Your Tummy?....Elaine Gordon
**Mr. Rogers--Let's Talk About Adoption....Fred Rogers
Over the Moon: An Adoption Tale....Karen Katz
Rosie's Family: An Adoption Story....Lori Rosove
**Tell Me Again About the Night I Was Born....Jamie Lee Curtis
**The Day We Met You....Phoebe Koehle
**The Mulberry Bird: Story of an Adoption....Anne Brodzinsky
Through Moon and Stars and Night Skies....Ann Turner
Twice-Upon-a-Time: Born and Adopted....Eleanora Patterson
**We See the Moon....Carrie Kitze
**When I Met You....Adrienne Ehlert Bashista
When You Were Born in China....Sara Dorow
When You Were Born in Korea....Brian Boyd
When You Were Born in Vietnam....Therese Barlett
Baby-Steps....Peter McCarty
Even If I Did Something Awful....B. Shook Hazen
Hazel's Amazing Mother....Rosemary Wells
Hush Little Baby....Sylvia Long
I Don't Have Your Eyes....Carrie A. Kitze
I Love You As Much....L. Krauss Melmed
Little Miss Spider....David Kirk
Love You Forever....Robert Munsch
No Matter What....Debi Gliori
**Mama, Do You Love Me?....Barbara M. Joasse
Owl Babies....Martin Waddell
The Little Green Goose....Adele Sansone
**The Runaway Bunny....Margaret Wise Brown


**After the Affair, with new section on Cyberaffairs....Janis Abrahms Spring
Cybersex Exposed: Simple Fantasy or Obession?....Jennifer Schneider & Robert Weiss
How Can I Forgive You: The Courage to Forgive, the Freedom Not To....Janis Abrahams Spring
Not Just Friends....Shirley Glass
Surviving Infidelity: Making Decisions, Recovering From the Pain....Rona Subotnick & Gloria Harris


A Good Age....Alex Comfort
A Positive Approach to Menopause....Lonnie Barbach
**Ageless Body, Timeless Mind....Deepak Chopra
Caring for Yourself While Caring for Your Aging Parent....Claire Berman
**Fear of Fifty....Erica Jong
**Getting Over Getting Older....Letty Colin Pogrebin
Menopause Naturally....Sadja Greenwood
**Passages....Gail Sheehy
The Change....Germaine Greer
**The Fountain of Age....Betty Friedan
When Your Parents Grow Old....Florence Shelley
Soft-Wired: How the New Science of Brain Plasticity Can Change Your Life....Merzenich

Anger Management

**Anger-The Misunderstood Emotion....Carol Tavris
Anger Workout Book....Michael Durphy 
Angry All the Time: An Emergency Guide to Anger Control....Ron Potter-Efron
Learning to Live Without Violence....Michael Durphy
Mindful Anger- A Pathway to Emotional Freedom....Andrea Brandt
**The Dance of Anger....Harriet Lerner 
**The Verbally Abusive Relationship....Patricia Evans
When Anger Hurts-Quieting the Storm Within...Matthew McKay, Peter D. Rogers, Judith McKay

Anxiety / Panic / Fear & Stress Reduction

Brainlock....Jeffery M. Schwartz 
Breathing Space (Time Pressure)....Jeff Davidson
**Creative Visualization....Shakti Gawain
Don't Panic-Taking Control of Panic Attacks....Reid Wilson 
**Don't Sweat the Small Stuff....and It's All Small Stuff....Richard Carlson
**Feel the Fear and Do It Anyway....Susan Jeffers
From Panic to Power....Lucinda Basset
Guide to Stress Reduction.....L. John Mason 
Healthy People in Unhealthy Places: Stress and Fitness at Work....Kenneth Pelletier
How to Put More Time in Your Life....Dru Scott
**Inner Simplicity....Elaine St. James
Mastery of Your Anxiety and Panic: Client Workbook....Barlow & Craske
Mind as Healer, Mind as Slayer- A Holistic Approach to Preventing Stress Disorders....Kenneth R. Pelletier
**Simplify Your Life....Elaine St. James
**Stop Obsessing (How to Overcome Your Obsessions and Compulsions)....Foa & Wilson
Stress Map: Personal Diary Edition....Esther M. Orioli, Dennis T. Jaffe & Cynthia Scott 
The Anxiety and Phobia Workbook....E.J. Bourne
The Highly Sensitive Person....Elaine N. Aron 
The Relaxation and Stress Reduction Workbook....Davis, Eshelman & McKay
TMJ-The Self-Help Program....J. Taddey
Wellness Workout....John W. Travis, Regina Sara Ryan
*Your Erroneous Zones....Wayne Dwyer
How to Calm Your Mind: Finding Presence and Productivity in Axious Times...Chris Bailey
The Traumatic Stress Recovery: 40 Brain-Changing Techniques You Can Use Right Now to Treat Symptoms of PTSD & Start Feeling Better...Jennifer Sweeten

Attention Deficit Disorder

Driven to Distraction....Edward M. Hallowell, John J. Ratey 
The Traumatic Stress Recovery: 40 Brain-Changing Techniques You Can Use Right Now to Treat Symptoms of PTSD & Start Feeling Better...Jennifer Sweeten  

Being Single

**Are you the One For Me: Knowing Who's Right and Avoiding Who's Wrong....Barbara De Angelis
**How to Survive the Loss of a Love....Melva Colgrove
**I'f I'm So Wonderful, How Come I'm Still Single?....Susan Page
**The Art of Single Living....Ruthe Stein

Bipolar Disorder

Bipolar Disorder: A Guide for Patients and Families....Frank Mondimore 
Detour (A Memoir)....Lizzie Simon

Borderline Personality

**Borderlines: A Memoir....Careline Kraus
Cognitive-Behavioral Treatment for Borderline Personality Disorder....Marsha Linehan
Fatal Flaws: Navigating Destructive Relationships with People with Disorders of Personality and Character....Stuart Yudofsky 
Lost in the Mirror: An Inside Look at Borderline Personality Disorder....Richard Moskovitz 
Skills Training Manual for Treating Borderline Personality Disorder....Marsha Linehan
**Stop Walking on Eggshells...Paul T. Mason
The Stop Walking on Eggshells Workbook....Paul T. Mason

Children and Life Threatening Illnesses

Imagine What's Possible - Use the power of your mind to take control of your life during cancer....Jared & Gary Skole
Taking Cancer to School....Cynthia S. Henry & Kim Gosselin
Butterfly Kisses & Wishes on Wings....Ellen McVicker
The Invisible String....Patrice Karst
I'm a Superhero....Daxton Wilde


**Beyond Codependency....Melody Beattie
**Boundaries....Anne Katherine 
**Codependence-Misunderstood/Mistreated....Melody Beattie
**Codependent No More....Melody Beattie
Lost in the Shuffle, Codependent Reality....Robert Stubby
**When I Say No, I Feel Guilty....M.J. Smith
Messages ....The Communications Skills Book....Matthew McKay, Martha Davis, Patrick Fanning

Couples / Communication / Marriage

20 Communication Tips for Couples: A 30-Minute Guide to a Better Relationship....Doyle Barnett
**A Course in Love: Powerful Teachings on Love, Sex, and Personal Fulfillment....Joan Gattuso
**A Housekeeper is Cheaper than a Divorce: Why You Can Afford to Hire Help and How to Get it....Kathy Fitzgerald Sherman
**A Return Home....M. Williamson
A Woman's Guide to Changing Her Man....Michelle Weiner Davis
**Are You the One for Me?: Knowing Who's Right and Avoiding Who's Wrong....Barbara De Angelis
Brain Sex: The Real Difference between Men and Women....Anne Moir & David Jessel
**Breaking the Argument Cycle....Sharon M Rivkin
**Couples Therapy: A Nontraditional Approach....Daniel B. Wile
Do You Really Want to Marry: 100 Questions to Ask Before You Say I Do....Susan Piver
**Don't Sweat the Small Stuff in Love....Richard Carlson & Kristine Carlson
Enchanted Love: The Mystical Power of Intimate Relationships....Marianne Williamson
Extraordinary Relationships: A New Way of Thinking About Human Interactions....Roberta M. Gilbert
Fighting for your Jewish Marriage....Markman, Blumberg & Levine
**Fighting for your Marriage....Markman, Blumberg & Levine
**Flux: Women on Sex, Work, Love, Kids, & Life in a Half-Changed World....Peggy Orenstein
**From This Day Forward....Toni Poynter
Getting the Love You Want....Harville Hendrix
**Going the Distance....Lonnie Barbach
**Grown-Up Marriage: What We Know, Wish We had Known, and Still Need to Know About Being Married....Judith Worst
Hold Me Tight....Sue Johnson
**Hot Monogamy....Pat Love
How to Be an Adult in Relationships: The Five Keys to Mindful Loving....David Richo
**How to Stay Lovers for Life: Discovering a Marriage Counselor's Tricks of the Trade....Sharyn Wolf
If This is Love, Why am I Unhappy?....Kudia Scott
**Intimate Strangers....Lillien Ruben
Keeping the Love you Find....Harville Hendrix
**Living, Loving & Learning....Leo Buscaglia
Love 2.0: Finding Happiness and Health in Moments of Connection....Barbara L. Fredrickson
**Love and Awakening: Discovering the Sacred Path of Intimate Relationship....John Wellwood
Love Illuminated: Exploring Life's Most Mystifying Subject....Daniel Jones
Love Sense....Sue Johnson
Marriage Rules: A Manual for the Married and the Coupled Up....Harriet Lerner
**Marriage Shock: The Transformation of Women into Wives....Dalma Heyn
**Marrying Later, Marrying Smarter....Tracy Cabot
Messages - The Communications Skills Book....McKay, David, Fanning
**Mixed Matches: How to Create Successful Interracial, Interethnic, and Interfaith Relationships....Joel Crohn
**Neale Donald Walsch on Relationships: Applications for Living....Neale Donald Walsch
Older Couples, New Romances: Finding and Keeping Love in Later Life....Edith Kemp & Jerrold Kemp
**On Relationships....Neale Donald Walsch
**Opening Our Hearts to Men....Susan Jeffers
Perfect Love, Imperfect Relationships: Healing the Wound of the Heart....John Welwood
Social Intelligence: The New Science of Human Relationships....Daniel Goleman
**Stop Blaming Start Loving: A Solution-Oriented Approach to Improving Your Relationship....Bill O'Hanlon & Pat Hudson
Surrendering to Marriage: Husbands, Wives, and Other Imperfections....Iris Krasnow
**The Dance of Intimacy....Harriet Lerner
**The Eight Essential Traits of Couples Who Thrive....Susan Page
**The First Arguement: Cutting to the Root of Intimate Conflict....Sharon M. Rivkin
**The Good Marriage....Wallerstein & Blakeslee
The New Rules of Marriage....Terrence Real
The Psychology of Romantic Love....Nathaniel Branden
**The Secret of Staying in Love....John Powell
**The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work....John Gottman
**The Verbally Abusive Relationship....Patricia Evans
Tired of the Drama....Alan Godwin
Too Much Togetherness: Surviving Retirement as a Couple....Miriam Goodman
True Love....Kingma
Undefended Love....Marlena Lyons & Jett Psaris
Wired for Love....Stan Tatkin
**Why Marriages Succeed or Fail....John Gottman
**You Just Don't Understand: Women and Men in Conversation....Deborah TannenUndefended Love....Jett Psaris & Marlena Lyons

Depression / Medications

**Darkness Visible....William Styron
**Feeling Good-The New Mood Therapy....David Burns
**Happiness is a Serious Problem: A Human Nature Repair Manual....Dennis Prager
Hardwiring Happiness....Rick Hanson
**Letters to a Young Poet....Rilke
**Listening to Prozac....Kramer
Overcoming Depression....D. & J. Papolos
Prozac-Questions and Answers....Ronald Fiene
**Skin Game: A Memoir....Caroline Kettlewell
Talking Back to Prozac....Peter Breggin
The Depression Book: Depression as an Opportunity for Spiritual Growth....Cheri Huber
The Depression Workbook....Mary E. Copeland
The Feeling Good Workbook....David Burns
**The Situation is Hopeless, but Not Serious: The Pursuit of Unhappiness....Paul Watzlawick
The Village Effect: How Face-to-Face Contact Can Make Us Healthier, Happier and Smarter....Susan Pinker
You Are Not Alone-Words of Experience and Hope for the Journey Through Depression....Julia Thorne

Divorce / Blended Families

A Bend in the Road is Not the End of the Road....Joan Lunden
Between Love and Hate: A Guide to Civilized Divorce....Lois Gold
**Building a Parenting Agreement That Works: Child Custody Agreements Step by Step....Mimi Lyster Zemmelman
Conscious Divorce: Ending a Marriage with Integrity....Susan Allison
Contemplating Divorce....Susan Pease Gadoua
Divorce-Busting....Michelle Weiner Davis
Divorce, Child Custody and the Family....Jossey Bass
Divorced Kids: Children of Divorce Speak Out and Give Advice to Mothers, Fathers, Lovers, Stepparents, Brothers....Warner Troyer
Divorce & New Bignnings: A Complete Guide to Recovery, Solo Parenting, Co-Parenting, and Stepfamilies....Genevieve Clapp
Divorce & Money: Everything You Need to Know....Gayle Rosenwald Smith
Divorce & Money: How to Make the Best Financial Decisions During Divorce....Violet Woodhouse & Dale Fetherling
Divorce Without Court: A Guide to Mediation and Collaborative Divorce....Katherine Stoner
Financial Custody: You, Your Money, and Divorce....Joan Coullahan & Sue van der Linden
Getting Divorced Without Ruining Your Life: A Reasoned, Practical Guide to the Legal, Emotional and Financial Ins and Outs of Negotiation a Divorce Settlement....Sam Margulies
Getting Up, Getting Over, Getting On: A Twelve Step Guide to Divorce Recovery....Micki McWade
Good Parenting Through Your Divorce....Mary Ellen Hannibal
Growing Through Divorce....Jim Smoke
How to Do Your Own Divorce in California: A Complete Kit....Charles E. Sherman
How to Talk to Your Children About Divorce....Jill Sones-Soderman, Allison Quattrocchi & Sheila Steinberg
I Don't Want to Talk about It (ages 4-8)....Jeanie Franz Ransom
Making Divorce Easier on Your Child: 50 Effective Ways to Help Children Adjust....Nicholas Long, Rex L. Forehand
Mom's House Dad's House- Making Shared Custody Work....Isolina Ricci
**Mom's House Dad's House for Kids....Isolina Ricci
My Mom and Dad Don't Live Together Anymore: A Drawing Book for Children (ages 4-10)....Judith Rubin
My Parents are Divorced Too: A Book by Kids and for Kids (ages 8-13)....Melanie, Annie & Stephen Ford
Nolo's Essential Guide to Divorce....Emily Doskow
Rebuilding: When Your Relationship Ends (3rd Ed)....Bruce Fisher & Robert E. Alberti
Should I Stay or Go? How Controlled Separation Can Save Your Marriage....Lee Raffel
Strong Day by Day, Reflections for Healing and Rebuilding After Divorce....Susan Pease Gadoua
Spiritual Divorce: Divorce As a Catalyst for an Extraordinary Life....Debbie Ford
Surviving the Breakup....Judith S. Wallerstein
The Divorce Book: A Practical and Compassionate Guide....Matthew McKay
The Good Divorce....Constance Ahrons
The New Money Book of Personal Finance....Editors of Money Magazine
The Soul of Money: Transforming Your Relationship with Money and Life....Lynne Twist
The Step-Parents' Survival Guide: A workbook for Creating a Happy Blended Family....Susan J Ziegahn
The Truth About Children and Divorce: Dealing with the Emotions So You and Your Children Can Thrive....Robert E. Emer
This is Me and My Two Families ( A scrapbook/journal) (ages 4-12)....Maria Evans
Too Good To Leave Too Bad to Stay....Mira Kirschenbaum
Transformational Divorce: Discover Yourself, Reclaim Your Dreams & Embrace Life's Unlimited Possibilities....Karen Kahn Wilson
What Can I Do: A Book for Children of Divorce (ages 8-12)....Danielle Lowry
What Every Woman Should Know About Divorce and Custody: Judges, Lawyers, and Therapists Share Winning Strategies on How to Keep the Kids, the Cash, and Your Sanity....Gayle Rosenwald Smith
Using Divorce Mediation: Save Your Money & Your Sanity (Using Divorce Mediation)....Katherine E. Stoner
Your Divorce Advisor....Diana Mercer, Marsha Kline Pruett

Domestic Violence

**The Battered Woman Syndrome....Lenore Walker
Coping with Difficult People....Robert Bramson
Dangerous Relationships: How to identify and Respond to the Seven Warning Signs of a Troubled Relationship....Noelle Nelson
Emotional Assault: Recognizing an Abusive Partner's Bag of Tricks....Lisa Kroulik
Help! I'm in Love with a Narcissist....Steve Carter & Julia Sokol
High Conflict People in Legal Disputes....Billy Eddy
Homecoming: Reclaiming and Healing You Inner Child....John Bradshaw
Malignant Self Love: Narcissism Revisited....Sam Vaknin
Why Does He Do That? Inside the Minds of Angry and Controlling Men....Lundy Bancroft
When Men Batter Women: New Insights Into Ending Abusive Relationships....Neil Jacobson & John Gottman
Without Conscience: The Disturbing World of the Psychopaths Among Us....Robert Hare 
Women Who Love Psychopaths: Inside the Relationships of Inevitable Harm; How to Spot a angerous Man Before You Get Involved....Sandra L. Brown

**The Verbally Abusive Relationship....Patricia Evans
The Verbally Abusive Man, Can he Change?: A Woman's Guide to Deciding Whether to Stay or Go....Patricia Evans
Verbal Abuse: Surviors Speak Out on Relationship and Recovery....Patricia Evans
Victory Over Verbal Abuse: A Healing Guide to Renewing Your Spirit and Reclaiming Your Life....Patricia Evans

Eating Disorders / Body Image

Binge No More: Your Guide to Overcoming Disordered Eating....Joyce D. Nash 
Body Image: Understanding Image Dissatisfaction in Men, Women and Children....Sarah Grogan
Fat is a Feminist Issue....Susan Orbach
Feeding the Hungry Heart: The Experience of Compulsive Eating....Geneen Roth
Helping Your Child Overcome an Eating Disorder: What You Can Do at Home....Bethany Teachman, Marlene Schwartz ,Bonnie Gordic, Brenda S. Coyle 
Help Your Teenager Beat an Eating Disorder...James Lock and Daniel Le Grange
Learning to Like Our Looks-and Ourselves....Rita Freedman 
Sensing the Self: Women's Recovery from Bulimia....Sheila Reindl
The Other America: Teens with Eating Disorders....Gail Stewart
**Wasted....Marya Hornsbacher
**When Food is Love: Exploring the Relationship Between Eating and Intimacy....Geneen Roth
Why Weight? A Guide to Ending Compulsive Eating....Geneen Roth


Sex, Race and Class....Selma James
**Mixed Matches: How to Create Successful Interracial, Interethnic, and Interfaith Relationships....Joel Crohn

Fertility / Being Childless

Beyond Infertility- The New Paths to Parenthood....Susan Cooper & Ellen Glazer
Childlessness Transformed: Stories Of Alternative Parenting....Jane English
Family Bonds....Elizabeth Bartholet
**Inconceivable....J. Indichova
Motherhood Deferred: A Woman's Journey....Anne Taylor Fleming
Never to Be a Mother: A Guide for All Women Who Didn't-or Couldn't-Have Children....Linda Hunt Anton
Reconceiving Women: Separating Motherhood from Female Identity....Mary Ireland
Surviving Infertility: A Compassionate Guide Through The Emotional Crisis of Infertility....Linda Salzer
Sweet Grapes....Carter
The Infertile Family....G. Becker
The Infertility Survival Guide....Judith Daniluk 
Unwomanly Conduct....Carolyn Morell
Up Against the Clock....Marylin Fabe & Norma Wicker


Forgive for Good....Fred Luskin
Forgiveness is a Choice....Robert Enright

Gay, Lesbian, Bisexual and Transgender/Gender Identity

10 Smart Things Gay Men Can Do to Improve Their Lives....Joe Kort
Lesbian Woman....Del & Lyon Martin
Living Gay....Don Clark
Loving Someone Gay....Don Clark
Man Woman: Boy and Girl....John Money & Anke Ehrhardt
The Joy of Gay Sex....Dr. Charles Silverstein, Felice Picano
The Joy of Lesbian Sex....Sisly & Harris
The Mendola Report....Mary Mendola

Gender Learning

Biological Relativity: Time and the Developing Child....Bruce D. Perry 
Cinderella Ate My Daughter...Peggy Orenstein
Pink Brain, Blue Brain....Lise Eliot
Raising Cain: Protecting the Emotional Life of Boys.....Dan Kindlon, Michael Thompson 
**Real Boys....William Pollack 
The Female Brain....Louann Brizendine 
The Minds of Boys: Saving Our Sons from Falling Behind in Life and School....Michael Gurian and Kathy Stevens
The New Gender Gap....Diane Connell  and Betsy Gunzelmann 
**Why Gender Matters....Dr. Leonard Sax

Grief & Bereavement

After Suicide....John Hewett (Christian orientation, practical information)
Don't Take My Grief Away From Me....Doug Manning (a minister's honest look at grief, easy to read)
Fatherless Women....C. Simon
Fatherless: How Sons of All Ages Come to Terms with the Deaths of Their Dads....N. Chetnik
Healing From Loss....M. Hickman (Daily Thoughts)
Her Last Death: A Memoir....Susanna Sonnenberg
How It Feels When a Parent Dies....Jill Krementz (excellent, from the point of view of children)
**How to Survive the Loss of a Love...Harold Bloomfield, Melba Colgrove , Peter McWilliams
How to Survive the Loss of a Parent: A Guide For Adults....Lois Akner
If I Die and When I Do....Franki and Barbara Sternberg (exploring death with young people from teacher's point of view)
It's Your Choice....American Associations of Retired Persons
Good Grief....Granger Westberg (ten "stages" of grief, Christian orientation)
Learning to Say Good-bye: When a Parent Dies....Eda LaShan (practical, good book for adolescents)
Living When a Loved One Has Died....Earl Grollman (excellent book, speaks from the heart, easy to read)
Living When a Loved One Has Died....Earl Groolman
Living with Death and Dying....Elisabeth Kubler-Ross 
Matters of Life and Death: Finding Words to Say Goodbye....C. Wogrin
Midlife Orphan: Facing Life's Changes Now That Your Parents Are Gone....Jane Brooks
Meetings at the Edge....Stephen Levine (conversations with people who are dying)
Motherless Daughters: The Legacy of Loss....Hope Edelman
My Legacy of Love....J. Sill
Nobody's Child Anymore: Grieving, Caring, and Comforting When Parents Die....B. Bartocci
**On Death and Dying....Elisabeth Kubler-Ross 
Questions and Answers on Death and Dying....Elisabeth Kubler-Ross 
Someone You Love is Dying....Martin Shephard 
Talking About Death: A Dialogue Between Parent and Child....Earl Grollman (one of the best books for use in discussing death with children)
The Courage to Grieve....Judy Tatlebaum (Great book with some good exercises)
The Loss That is Forever....Mazine Harris 
The Orphaned Adult: Understanding and Coping with Grief and Change After the Death of Our Parents....Alexander Levy
The Tibetan Book of Living and Dying
The Widower....Willare K. Kohn & Jane Burgess Kohn
To Live Until We Say Goodbye....Elisabeth Kubler-Ross 
Up from Grief....Bernadine Kries and Alice Pattie (easy to read, practical)
What Murder Leaves Behind....Dough McGee
**When Bad Things Happen to Good People....Rabbi Harold Kuschner
Who Dies?.....Stephen Levine (philosophical viewpoint on grief, death)
Widow....Lynn Caine (useful especially for younger widows)
**Tuesdays With Morrie.... Mitch Albom
Transitions.... William Bridges
Final Gifts.... M. Callanan and P. Kelley
Living When a Loved One has Died and What Helped Me When My Loved One Died.... Earl Grollman
You Don't Have to Suffer ....Judy Tatelbaum
Up From Grief: Patterns of Recovery.... Kreis and Pattie
How to Survive the Loss of a Love.... Colgrove and Bloomfield
Care of the Soul: An Inspirational Programme to Add Depth and Meaning to Your Everyday Life.... Thomas Moore
Who Dies? Meetings at the Edge.... Stephen Levine
Stepping Stones to Grief Recovery.... Debra Routh
Living Through Personal Crisis....Ann Kaiser Steams 
Necessary Losses.... Judith Viorst
How to Go On Living When a Loved One Has Died.... T. Rando
Living Through Mourning.... Harriet Schiff
Art of Condolence.....Leonard Zunin, Hilary Zunin
All books written by Elizabeth Kubler-Ross
A Grief Observed.... C.S. Lewis
Men and Grief.... Carol Staudacher
The Myth of Closure: Ambiguous Loss in a Time of Pandemic and Change...Pauline Boss

When your Child is Gone, Learning to Live Again.....Francine Toder 
The Bereaved Parent.....Harriet Schiff
Finding Hope When A Child Dies....Sukie Miller & Doris Ober
Climb Toward Understanding.... P. Davis
Beyond Endurance: When a Child Dies....Ronald J. Knapp

Astor, Cynthia. A Song for Cecilia Fantini. H. J. Kramer, 1997. A beautifully illustrated story about a girl grieving the loss of her beloved piano teacher.
**Buscalia, Leo. The Fall of Freddy the Leaf. H. Holt & Co., 1982. Death is presented as a natural part of life, illustrated through the lifecycle of a leaf.
DePaola, T. Nana Upstairs and Nana Downstairs. Putnam, 1973. A heartwarming story about Tom, who finds that his great-grandmother has died when he goes upstairs to visit her.
Douglas, Eileen. Rachel and the Upside Down Heart. Price Stern Sloan, 1990. A touching, true story written by a mother for her four-year-old daughter, Rachel, who lost her father. Rachel gradually rediscovers joy while learning to keep her father’s memory alive in her heart.
Goble, Paul. Beyond the Ridge. Aladdin Paperbacks, 1993. A beautiful explanation of death from a Native American perspective.
Holmes, Margaret M. A Terrible Thing Happened. Magination Press, 2000. This gently told story is for children who have witnessed any kind of tragedy. An afterward for parents offers many suggestions for helping traumatized children.
Levy, Janice. The Spirit of Tio Fernando (El espiritu de tio Fernando). Albert Whitman & Co., 1995. This is a magical story, written in both English and Spanish, about a Mexican family celebrating the Day of the Dead.
Mellonie, B. and Ingpen, R. Lifetimes: The Beautiful Way to Explain Death to Children. Bantam Books, 1983. This book describes the universal cycle of life and death, illustrated with lovely photographs of plants, animals and people.
Meislin, Barbara. No One Can Ever Steal Your Rainbow. Purple Lady Productions, 2005. A girl experiences loss, but finds hope through her own inner strength. Music CD with healing song included.
Miles, Miska. Annie and the Old One. Little Brown & Co., 1971. A wise Navajo grandmother teaches her granddaughter how to accept death.
Saltzman, David. The Jester Has Lost His Jingle. The Jester Co., 1995. A court jester and his assistant discover that laughter can redeem a weary world and provide the best tonic for anyone facing seemingly insurmountable obstacles.
Sherkin-Langer, Fern. When Mommy Is Sick. Albert Whitman & Co., 1995. A touching story about a girl’s fears when her mother is ill and hospitalized.
Turner, Barbara J. A Little Bit of Rob. Albert Whitman & Co., 1996. A beautifully illustrated story about a girl’s first crabbing expedition with her parents after the death of her big brother.
Velthuijs, Max. Frog and Birdsong. Farrar, Straus and Giroux, 1991. Animals learn about the cycles of birth and death when they encounter a dead bird upon their path.
Vigna, Judith. Saying Goodbye to Daddy. Albert Whitman & Co., 1991. After Clare loses her father, she experiences feelings of sadness, anger and guilt. She gradually learns to cherish his memory and hold him in her heart always.
Vigna, Judith. When Eric’s Mom Fought Cancer. A young boy’s fears and struggles are described as he watches his mother battle cancer.
**Viorst, Judith. The Tenth Good Thing About Barney. Macmillan Publishing Co., 1971. A boy grieves the loss of his cat.

Canfield, Jack, et. al. Chicken Soup for the Kid’s Soul and Chicken Soup for the Teenage Soul. Health Communications, Inc., 1998 and 1997. A hundred and one stories, in each edition, on courage, hope, and laughter, written by youth and adult inspirational authors, with specific sections on death and dying and “tough stuff.”
Dillon, Zach. This One’s For You! Landmark Editions, 1999. Written by a 13-year-old boy who lost his grandmother, this is a fictional account about a child who loses his mother. It realistically portrays the heart of a grieving child.
Fry, Virginia Lynn. Part of Me Died, Too. Dutton’s Children’s Books, 1995. A group of older children tell their stories of loss. This book provides advice on how to work on grief through art projects and personal rituals.
Gootman, Marilyn E. When A Friend Dies. Free Spirit Publishing, 1994. Gentle advice and compassionate wisdom about how teens can cope and begin to heal, written by a mother whose own children experienced the death of a loved one. Recommended by Michael Stipe of REM.
Grollman, Earl and Malikow, Max. Living When A Young Friend Commits Suicide. Beacon Press, 1999. A straightforward book by an internationally recognized grief counselor reviews the questions that inevitably arise after a suicide.
Krementz, Jill. How It Feels When A Parent Dies. Alfred A. Knopf, 1981. A moving series of interviews with children, aged 7-–16, who have experienced the death of a parent. They candidly discuss their questions and fears.
Rylant, Cynthia. Missing May. Dell, 1992. A novel charting a girl’s journey towards hope in the midst of mourning her mother.
Schleifer, Jay. When Someone You Know Has Been Killed. Rosen Publishing Group, 1998. Educates youth about how to heal from a tragic loss and how to help grieving peers.
Smith, Doris Buchanan. A Taste of Blackberries. Harper Trophy, 1973. When a boy loses his best friend after a harmless prank, he must find the strength to bear his grief and his guilt.
Whelan, Gloria. Forgive the River, Forgive the Sky. Eerdman’s Books for Young Readers, 1998. When 12-year-old Lily’s father dies on her beloved hometown river, her whole life changes. She eventually learns that loss is inevitable when we love.

Fitzgerald, Helen. The Grieving Child. Simon & Schuster, 1992. A practical guide for parents to help them explain death to their children, understand their children’s emotional responses and learn hands-on-techniques for helping them with their grief work. Includes answers to parents’ most frequently asked questions.
Galinsky, Nadine. When a Grandchild Dies: What To Do, What to Say, How to Cope.
Miller, Sukie. Finding Hope When A Child Dies. Simon & Schuster, 1999. Provides comfort and hope, by drawing on cross-cultural wisdom, for one of the most devastating of events. Filled with insightful ideas, practical information and inspiring personal stories.
Reed, Mary Lou. Grandparents Cry Twice: Help for Bereaved Grandparents.
Rubel, Barbara. But I Didn’t Say Goodbye: For Parents and Professionals Helping Child Suicide Survivors. Griefwork Center, Inc., 1999. An extraordinary resource to help children deal with the difficult, often hidden and stigmatizing aftereffects of suicide.

Suddenly Alone: A Woman's Guide to Widowhood.... P. Gates
Being a Widow.... L. Caine
Seven Choices: Taking the Steps to New Life After Losing Someone You Love....Elizabeth Harper Neeld 
Losing Someone you Love.... A.E. Nudel
Starting Over: Help for Young Widows and Widowers.... A.E. Nudel
The Year of Magical Thinking.... Joan Didion
Grace and Grit.... Ken Wilbur

Motherless Daughters.... Hope Edelman
Losing a Parent.... Alexandra Kennedy
Learning to Say Goodbye: When a Parent Dies.... Eda LeShan
When Parents Die: A Guide for Adults.... E. Myers
Losing Your Parent.... Finding Yourself.... Victoria Secunda

Silent Grief Living in the Wake of Suicide.... Lukas and Seiden

The Love Season.... Elm Hilderbrand
Good Grief.... Lolly Winston


You're Not Alone With Herpes....Tom Mitchell & W.B. Carruthers

Military Issues

After the Parade- Adjustments Confronting Military Personnel and Their Families....Lester Westling Jr.
Roadmap to Resilience- a Guide for Military, Trauma Victims and Their Families...Donald Meichenbaum


Surviving Pregnancy Loss....Rochelle Friedman & Bonnie Gradstein
The Sids Survival Guide: Information & Comfort for Grieving Families, Friends & Professionals who Seek to Help Them....Joni Horchler & Robin Morris
Unspeakable Losses: Healing From Miscarriage, Abortion, and Other Pregnancy Loss....Kim Kluger-Bell
A Loss Misunderstood: Healing Your Grieving Heart after Miscarriage...Jaclyn Pieris

Mother-Child Issues

Between Mothers and Daughters: Stories Across a Generation....Susan Koppellman
I'm Still Your Mother: How to Get Along With Youth Grown Up Children For the Rest of Your Life....Jane Adams
In My Mother's House....Kim Chernin
Linked Lives....Lucy Fisher
Motherloss....Lynn Davidman
Mothers and Daughters, Loving and Letting Go....Evelyn Bassof
My Mother, Myself....Nancy Friday
**The Mother Dance....H. Lerner
Mothers Who Can't Love--a Healing Guide for Daughters....Susan Forward

Narcissistic Personality

Her Last Death: A Memoir....Susanna Sonnenberg

Obsessive Compulsive Disorder

**Just Checking: Scenes From the Life of an Obsessive-Compulsive....Emily Coles
**Stop Obsessing! How to Overcome Your Obsessions and Compulsions....Edna  Foa & Reid Wilson
Thriving in Relationships When You Have OCD: How to Keep Obsessions & Compulsions from Sabotaging Love, Friendship & Family Connections...Amy Mariaskin

Pain Control

Managing Pain Before It Manages You....Margaret A. Caudill
The Chronic Pain Control Workbook....Ellen Catalan & Kimeron Hardin

Parenting...or Not

50 Wonderful Ways to Be a Single-Parent Family....Barry Ginzberg
A Baby Maybe: A Guide....E. Wahelin
*Any book by....Berry Brazelton
*Bad Mother: A Chronicle of Maternal Crimes, Minor Calamities, and Occasional Moments of Grace....Ayelet Waldman
Boys of Few Words: Raising Our Sons to Communicate and Connect....Adam Cox
Boy Talk: How You Can Help Your Son Express His Emotions....Mary Polce-Lynch
*Bradshaw On: The Family....Bradshaw
Brainstorm: The Power and Purpose of the Teenage Brain....Daniel J. Siegel
Bullies 2 Buddies....Izzy Kalliman
Children of Depressed Parents....Helen Morris (Ed)
Cinderella Ate My Daughter...Peggy Orenstein
Considering Parenthood: A Workbook for Lesbians....Cheri Pies
Discipline Without Shouting or Spankings....Jerry Wyckoff & Barbara Unell
**Drama of the Gifted Child....Alice Miller
**Everyday Blessings....Jon Kabat-Zinn
Finding Time for Fatherhood....Bruce Linton
**Getting Your Child to Sleep.. And Back to Sleep: Tips for Parents of Infants, Toddlers, and Preschoolers....Vicky Lansky
Girls and Sex: Navigating the Complicated New Landscape...Peggy Orenstein
Good Behavior: Sensitive Solutions to Your Child's Problems....Berry Brazelton
Growing Up With Divorce....Neil Kalter
**Hot Flashes Warm Bottles....Nancy London
How to Live With Adult Children Who Return Home....Okimoto & Stegall
How to Raise an Adult: How to Break Free of the Overparenting Trap and Prepare Your Kid for Success....Julie Lythcott-Hams
**How to Talk So Kids Will Listen and So Kids Will Talk....Adele Faber and Elaine Mazlish
You're on Your Own But I'm Here if You Need Me (nurturing your child during the college years)....M. Savage
In Praise of Single Mothers....Shoshana Alexander
Journey Into Motherhood: Writing Your Way to Self-Discovery....Leslie Kirk Campbell
**Kid Cooperation: How to Stop Nagging, Yelling, and Pleading, and Get Kids to Cooperate....Elizabeth Pantley
Life Preservers....Harriet Lerner
Loving Your Teenage Daughter (Whether She Likes it or Not): The Complete Insider Guide for Moms.... Debra Whiting Alexander
**Mom's House, Dad's House for Kids: Feeling at Home in One Home or Two....Isolina Ricci
**Mom's House, Dad's House: Making Two Homes for Your Child....Isolina Ricci
**Mothers Who Think: Tales of Real-Life Parenthood....Camille Peri & Kate Moses
**Nurture Shock: New Thinking About Children....Po Bronson & Ashley Merryman
One and Only: The Freedom of Having an Only Child, And the Joy of Being One....Lauren Sandler
Parenting from the Inside Out....Daniel J. Siegel
**Perfect Parenting: The Dictionary of 1.000 Parenting Tips....Elizabeth Pantley
Please Don't Sit On Your Kids....Clare Cherry
**Positive Discipline A-Z....Lynn Lott and H. Stephen Glenn
**Positive Discipline for Preschooler: For Their arly Years- Raising Children Who are Responsible, Respectful. and Resourceful....Jane Nelsen, Cheryl Erwin & Roslyn Ann Duffy
**Positive Discipline for the First Three Years: From Infant to Toddler- Laying the Foundation for Raising a Capable, Confident Child....Jane Nelsen, Cheryl Erwin & Roslyn Ann Duffy
*Positive Parenting From A-Z....Keren Renshaw Joslin
*Positive Self-Talk for Children....Douglas Bloch with Jon Merritt
**Raising an Emotionally Intelligent Child....John Gottman
Raising Cain: Protecting the Emotional Life of Boys....Dan Kindlon & Michael Thompson
Raising Happiness....Christine Carter
Single Mothers by Choice....Jean Mattes
**Screamfree Parenting: The Revolutionary Approach to Raising Your Kids by Keeping Your Cool....Hal Edward Runkel
**Secrets of the Baby Whisperer for Toddlers....Tracy Hogg & Melinda Blau
**Simplify Your Life with Kids: 100 Ways to Make Family Life Easier and More Fun....Elaine St. James
Stay Home, Stay Happy: 10 Secrets to Loving At-Home Motherhood....Rachel Campos-Duffy
Stories From the Motherline: Reclaiming The Mother-Daughter Bond....Finding Our Feminine Souls....Naomi Lowensky
*Teaching Children Values....Eyre
The Approximate Parent: Discovering the Strategies That Work With Your Teenagers....Michael Y. Simon
The Cursing Mommy's Book of Days: A Novel....Ian Frazier
**The Happiest Toddler on the Block: The New Way to Stop the Daily Battle of Wills and Raise a Secure and Well-Behaved One-to-Four-Year-Old....Harvey Karp
The Lesbian and Gay Parenting Handbook: Creating and Raising Our Families....April Martin
*The Magical Child Within You....Bruce Davis & Genny Davis
**The Mama's Boy Myth....Kate Stone Lombardi
**The Mother's Dance....Harriet Lerner
**The No-Cry Sleep Solution for Toddlers and Preschoolers: Gentle Ways to Stop Bedtime Battles and Improve Your Child's Sleep....Elizabeth Pantley
The Parenthood Decision: Discovering Whether You Are Ready and Willing to Become a Parent....Beverly Engel
The Price of Privilege: How Parental Pressure and Material Advantage Are Greating a Generation of Disconnected and Unhappy Kids....Madeline Levine
**Using Jewish Teachings to Raise Self-Reliant Children: The Blessing of a Skinned Knee....Wendy Mogel
What's so Terrible About Swallowing an Appleseed....Harriet Lerne & Susan Goldhor
**What to Expect the First Years....Arlene Eisenberg, Heidi E. Murkoff & Sandee E. Hathaway
**What to Expect the Toddler Years....Arlene Eisenberg, Heidi E. Murkoff & Sandee E. Hathaway
**When Parents Disagree and What You Can Do About It....Ron Taffel
Women in Therapy....Harriet Lerner
*Your Five-Year-Old: Sunny and Serene....Louise Bates Ames & Frances Ilg 
No Kidding: Women Writers on Bypassing Parenthood....a collection of writings
Emotionally Resilient Tweens and Teens: Empowering Your Kids to Navigate Bullying, Teasing, and Social Exclusion...Kim John Payne & Luis Fernando Llosa
Girls on the Brink by Donna Jackson Nakazawa

**The Girlfriend's Guide to Toddlers....Vicki Lovine
*Touchpoints: Your Child's Emotional and Behavior Development....T. Berry Brazelton
*You are Your Child's First Teacher....Baldwin Dancy and Rahima Baldwin
*Your Child's Growing Mind....Jane Healy

Biological Relativity: Time and the Developing Child....Bruce D. Perry
Cinderella Ate My Daughter...Peggy Orenstein
Pink Brain, Blue Brain....Lise Eliot
*Raising Cain....M. Kindlon and D. Thompson
Real Boys....William Pollack
The Female Brain....Louann Brizendine
The Minds of Boys: Saving Our Sons from Falling Behind in Life and School....Michael Gurian and Kathy Stevens
The New Gender Gap....Diane Connell, Ed.D. and Betsy Gunzelmann
Why Gender Matters....Dr. Leonard Sax

*Discipline Without Tears....Rudolf Dreikurs and Pearl Cassell
*To Listen To A Child....T. Berry Brazelton
Kids Can Cooperate....Elizabeth Crary

Between Mothers and Daughters: Stories Across a Generation....Susan Koppellman
I'm Still Your Mother: How to Get Along With Youth Grown Up Children For the Rest of Your Life....Jane Adams
In My Mother's House....Kim Chernin
Linked Lives....Lucy Fischer 
*Motherloss....Lynn Davidman
*Mothers and Daughters, Loving and Letting Go....Evelyn Bassoff
**My Mother, Myself....Nancy Friday
**The Mother Dance....Harriet Lerner


Angelhead....Greg Bottoms
Schizophrenia: A Family Manual....E.F. Torrey
Siblings of the Mentally Ill....Wendy Carlisle
Understanding Schizophrenia....Keefe & Harvey
When Someone You Love Has a Mental Illness....Rebecca Woolis

Seasonal Affective Disorder

Winter Blues. Seasonal Affective Disorder: What it is and How to Overcome it....Norman E. Rosenthal

Self-Acceptance / Self-Esteem / Self Realization / Spirituality

(Also check out books under Spiritualy)
A Return to Love-Reflections on the Principles of a Course in Miracles....Marianne Williamson
A Woman's Worth....Marianne Williamson
Flow: The Psychology of Optimal Experience....Mihaly Csikszentmihalyi
From Here to Happiness....Dr. Teutsch
It's Easier Than You Think....Sylvia Boortstein
Kitchen Table Wisdom: Joys That Heal....Naomi Remen
Letters to A Young Poet....Rilke
My Grandfather's Blessings: Stories of Strength, Refuge, and Belonging....Naomi Remen
Radical Acceptance....Tara Brach
Reinventing Your Life: The Breakthrough Program to End Negative Behavior and Feel Great Agian....Jeffrey E. Young
Self Esteem....Richard Bednar et al.
Self Esteem....Matthew McKay and Patrick Fanning
Self Realization and Self Defeat....Dr. Warner
Supersurviviors: The Surprising Link Between Suffering and Success....David Feldman and Lee Kravetz
That Which You Are Seeking is Causing You to Seek....Cheri Huber
The Power is Within You....Louise Hayes
The Road Less Traveled....M. Scott Peck
The Snow Ball Effect: How to Build Positive Momentum in Your Life....Kristin Barton Cuthriell
The Taboo Scarf and Other Tales of Therapy....George Weinberg
There is Nothing Worng with You: Going Beyond Self-Hate: A Compassionate Process for Learning to Accept Yourself Exactly as You Are....Cheri Huber
The Village Effect: How Face-To-Face Contact Can Make Us Healthier, Happier, and Smarter....Susan Pinker
Transforming Negative Self-Talk....Steve Andreas
When Perfect Isn't Good Enough: Strategies or Coping with Perfectionism....Martin Anthony & Richard Swinson
Wherever You Go, There You Are....Jon Kabat-Zinn
Being Black: Zen and the Art of Living with Fearlessness and Grace...Angel Kyoto Williams
Ready: How to Know When to Go and When to Say...David Richo
Set Boundaries, Find Peace: A Guide to Reclaiming Yourself...Nedra Glover Tawwab
The Self-Talk Workout: Six Science-Backed Strategies to Dissolve Self-Criticism and Transform the Voice in Your Head...Rachel Goldsmith Turow

Self Harm

Sharp: My story of Madness, Cutting, and How I Reclaimed My Life....David Fitzpatrick


She's Not There....Jennifer Boylan
Ask Me Anything....Marty Klein
E.S.O. (Extended Sexual Orgasm)....Alan & Donna Brauer
For Each Other....Lonnie Barbach
For Yourself: The Fulfillment of Female Sexuality....Lonnie Barbach
Gender Born, Gender Made....Diane Ehrensaft
Girls and Sex...Peggy Orenstein
How to Make Love to a Man....Alexandra Penney
Rethinking Normal....Katie Rain Hill
Cybersex Exposed: Simple Fantasy or Obsession?....Jennifer Schneider & Robert Weiss
The Girl's Guide to Relationships, Sexuality & Consent: Tools to Help Teens Stay Safe, Empowered, & Confident...Leah Aguirre & Geraldine O'Sullivan


Embracing Shame
How to Stop Resisting Shame & Turn It Into a Powerful Ally
Bret Lyon & Sheila Rubin


Shyness....Bernardo Carducci


No More Sleepless Nights....Peter Hauri & Shirley Linde
The Promises of Sleep....William C. Dement

Sociopathic Personality

Confessions of a Sociopath: A Life Spent Hiding in Plain Sight....M.E. Thomas
Snakes in Suits: When Psychopaths go to Work....Paul Babiak & Robert D. Hare
The Sociopath Next Door....Martha Stout

Spirituality (also see Self Acceptance)

Awakening Joy: 10 Steps That Will Put You on the Road to Real Happiness....James Baraz and Shoshana Alexander
A New Earth: Awakening to Your Life's Purpose....Eckert Tolle
A Path With Heart....Jack Kornfield
After the Ecstacy, the Laundry....Jack Kornfield
Hardwiring Happiness....Rick Hanson
Loving-Kindness....Sharon Salzberg
Radical Acceptance....Tara Brach (learning to love and accept yourself)
It's Easier Than You Think....Sylvia Boorstein
Peace is Every Step....Thich Nhat Hanh
The Art of Happiness....the Dalai Lama and Howard Cutler

Trauma (also see Abuse sections)

The Alchemy of Wolves and Sheep- A Relational Approach to Internalized Perpetration in Complex Trauma Survivors....Harvey Schwartz
Roadmap to Resilience: A Guide for Military, Trauma Victims and Their Families....Donald Meichenbaum

Victimization of Women

Against Our Will....Susan Brownmiller
Assault on Truth....Jeffry Mason
Men on Rape....Temothy Beneke
The Burning Bed: Battered Women....Linore Walker
When Men Batter Women: New Insights Into Ending Abusive Relationships....Neil Jacobsen & John Gottman

Women's Issues

A Woman's Worth....Marianne Williamson
Backlash....Susan Faludi
Flux: Women on Sex, Work, Kids and Life in a Half-Changed World...Peggy Orenstein
In a Different Voice....Carol Gilligan
Language and Women's Place....Robin Lakoff
Necessary Losses....Judith Viorst
Revolution From Within....Gloria Steinham
The Beauty Myth....Naomi Wolf
The Cinderella Complex....Colette Dowling
The Mismeasure of Woman....Carol Tavris
The Second Sex....Simone de Beauvoir
Sex, Race and Class- The Perspective of Winning: A Selection of Writings 1952-2011....Selma James
You Just Don't Understand....Deborah Tannen
Mothers Who Can't Love--a Healing Guide for Daughters
Women Don't Ask: The High Cost of Avoiding Negotiation and Positive Strategies for Change....Linda Babcock & Sara Laschever
The Emotionally Exhausted Woman: Why You're Feeling Depleted & How to Get What You Need...Nancy Colier

Work / Money

Do What You Love, the Money Will Follow....Marsha Sinetar
How to Get out of Debt, Stay out of Debt, and Live Prosperously....Jerold Mundis
Women Don't Ask: The High Cost of Avoiding Negotiation and Positive Strategies for Change....Linda Babcock & Sara Laschever
Working Ourselves to Death....Diane Fassel